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Sonali Bendre says she refuses to allow negative emotions control her life

NetIndian News Network

New York, October 9, 2018

Actor-model-author Sonali Bendre Behl, who is undergoing treatment for cancer in New York, refuses to allow negative emotions gain control over her life and says her “visual focus remains to just get better and get back home”.
Posting a picture of herself applying an eyeliner, Sonali says in a tweet on the micro-blogging site Twitter, “Over the past couple of months, I have had good days and bad ones. There have been days when I’ve been so exhausted and in so much of pain that even lifting a finger hurt.
“I feel like sometimes it’s a that starts off with physical pain and leads to mental and emotional pain. The bad days have been many...Post chemo, post-surgery and the like...when even laughing hurts,” she says.
“Sometimes I felt like it took everything I’ve had to push past it...a minute to minute battle with myself. I got through it knowing that even though I was fighting a long drawn out, draining was one that was worth the fight.”
Sonali feels that forced cheerfulness all the time is of no use and negative emotions should find an outlet. “It’s important to remember that we’re allowed to have those bad days. Forcing yourself to be happy and cheerful all the time serves no purpose. Who are we being fake and putting on an act for?
“I allowed myself to cry, to feel the pain, to indulge in self-pity...for a short while. Only you know what you’re going through and it is fine to accept it. Emotions aren’t wrong. Feeling negative emotions isn’t wrong. But after a point, identify it, recognize it and refuse to let it control your life. It takes an immense amount of self-care to get out of that zone. Sleep always helps, or having my favourite smoothie after chemo, or just talking to my son.
“For now, as my treatment visual focus remains to just get better and get back home,” she says.
“It’s yet another test...Student all my life...Learning all my life..” Sonali says in the tweet with the hashtags #LearningAllMyLife #OneDayAtATime.

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